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Mama bear needs a break

on 18 November 2014

Oh how I love my children, the sound of their laughter makes my heart do flip flops with delight. Seeing my oldest reading to his little brother tugs at my heart strings, and I’m so grateful for the love they share. I also love those tight cub hugs, and the I love you’s whispered in the dark, when I’m curled up with them for prayer time. What I don’t love is how messy they’ve been lately. I don’t just mean toys scattered everywhere, or boots, coats, and snow pants thrown on the floor. I mean how I’m treated like Mom the maid. I literally did a major clean on my house yesterday, I pulled out couches and chairs, vacuumed, mopped, and folded and put away laundry. If you’ve been reading my blog you’ll know that laundry is my nemesis and me and Mount washer are well acquainted. ?When the Captain got home from hockey practice I literally went behind him and picked up his coat and hung it up, put his boots on the boot rack, made his bed, cleaned up his clothes after his shower, and the cupcake icing disaster in my kitchen. I thought to myself I’m his Mom, and I love him but when did I become his maid? So I told him how I felt and he apologized. Which I’m grateful for, but what am I teaching him by constantly cleaning up after him? I seriously don’t think in this day and age he’s going to find a wife that does that for him. I didn’t find a husband that does that for me!!! And no, I won’t be bitching about my hubby doesn’t do anything for me. Because it’s not true, he does when I’m overwhelmed or sick. He also works 40 + hours a week so I can be home and we take turns making dinner. He’s going to win Dad of the year, because of the kick ass skating rink he’s building in the back yard for our sons. I’ll be cheering them on from the hot tub as he teaches our youngest how to skate. I’m the stay at home Mom so it’s all part of my job description to do the housework. And I’ve always believed there’s a reason why they call it work. I don’t remember signing up for that duty, but that’s what I get with the luxury of staying home and raising my children. I also work from home as a transcriptionist, so there’s keeping on top of my assignments, running my household, hockey Mom duties, and killing monsters under the bed. Which luckily are only dust bunnies, because this Mama bear would be roaring if it was a real deal. I work hard at what I do and my rewards and accolades come from you my lovely readers. The fact that you check in and read and comment about my musings means so much to me. I once had a friend ask me why blogging was so important to me, especially since it’s not a paying gig. My response was sure money’s awesome, but respect is my level of currency. So I’m going to take my advice and start respecting myself and stop letting my kids treat me like their maid. They do have chores and responsibilities that are age appropriate for them. In the hustle and bustle of our life they just got used to me picking up the slack. Well this Mama bear needs a break, and my cubs are just going to have to fall into line. So on that note I’ll be enjoying a bubble bath to rest my aching back, wine to take the edge off, and a good book to dive into. And no one better bother me unless the house is burning down. Because we all know what happens when you poke the angry bear with a sharp stick.

10 Responses to “Mama bear needs a break”

  1. 80smetalman says:

    Good on you, put your feet up and enjoy that glass of wine 🙂

  2. How bereft of orderliness and self-respect these precious ones would be without your courage to take a stand and teach them to be human beings–conscious of what they leave behind them. It isn’t easy; but persevere, dear lady. They will thank you someday; just you wait and see… 🙂 And thank God for the mercies during your journey of raising them in wisdom.

  3. himnmeinbed says:

    Go ahead hun enjoy the bubbly bubbles with your glass of bubbly. 🙂

  4. Let’s hope they don’t poke the bear!

    Enjoy your relaxation time-you deserve it 🙂

  5. Beehappy says:

    I often feel the same way. I don’t mind doing the majority of the housework and cleaning the home. But I get very frustrated when I feel like I’m constantly picking up after everyone. My oldest is just 4 but I feel like that behaviour has gotten so much worse since her birthday. She totally seems to take it for granted that this is mommy’s job, to clean up and pick up after everyone. I try to make her do it and have chores but it’s been a struggle lately.

    • jsackmom says:

      That’s exactly how I feel. I mean I’m home so yes I can do the majority. Yet it takes 4 people living in the home to make the mess so I think it’s only fair for help in cleaning when everyone’s home. I’m going to look for solutions than just keep whining to my kids about it. Chore charts will be going up for both kids and my husband and I already share chore duties but I’m going to ask him for more help when I’m overwhelmed. I think being positive about my goals will have a better impact then being negative about it. Melissa & Doug make great chore charts that’s what I’ll be using for my 6 year old and a written up one for his older brother. Maybe that might help your daughter to see how to help you with chores. ?

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